This is something I found. Most of this I would not want every guy out there doing to every girl out there. IMO most of this should be done only when trying to get the girl/already got her. I may need to edit some of them, but I just wanted to put something up to get this thing going.
~J
All comments/edits of mine will be in a different color.These are not rules. They are strong suggestions that are to push the male gender from boys to men to gentlemen. It is a list of moral guidelines that promote respect to every single female out there regardless of our interest in her, her beauty, her attitude. When we play favorites, we play games and that's so not kosher.
Please, no games guys.We will not be pushovers,
(good) but we will do what we can for you and look out for your best interest. We will not be mama's boys, but we will show our mama respect. We will do our best to be gentlemen and we hope that you girls will do your best to be ladies who will display a mirrored respect for us...after all, shouldn't we make this mutual?
0. There are exceptions to these rules. The exception is when you actually talk to the female(s) and she/they say something different than what is said down this list. These suggestions are not final, they're just here to help you get a start at being a real man.
Okay, I've read this and that is why I had to rename it from "There Are Some Things Guys Should Always Do For Girls. Period." to what it is now. Because most of this should not be done unless you already have have a girlfriend/fiancee.1. Open doors, whether it be to a building or a car, that's just a given.
This should be done all the time, to/for everyone.2. When in a place of worship (or other places that have aisles and pews), if a man is at the end of the pew, when exiting he should stand in the aisle and let all the females go before him. (this seems odd to some people, yet normal for others. if you don't get it, don't worry about it, okay?)
3. A man should tolerate the occassional chick flick, musical, opera, or ballet - whatever her preference is - *without* complaining about it! (because the guy may just like it)
4. Play one of the songs that would make any woman weep like the little girl she once was (but in a good way). A brief list includes, but certainly isn't limited to:
- Anything by Frank Sinatra
- Any rendition of "Everything I Do, I Do it for You"
- "Out of my League" Steven Speaks
and MOST IMPORTANTLY "Question" by the Old 97's (if you propose to a girl with this song, she is putty in your hands). ("putty in your hands" is not meant to promote "using women" in any way. this list does not encourage guys to be polite in order to get her into bed.)
I have my own list, but I guess for some girls this may work...
5. Talk! The strong & silent bit goes from intriguing to boring quite fast.
Even if the guy is in fact cute, we can only stair at you for so long guys. Please, speak up!6. Find out what her favorite flower is & buy them for her randomly (regardless of the situation you might be in). Good rule of thumb: a single rose says more than dozens of anything else. (I encourage the women to not allow a guy to "prove himself worthy" through gifts and flowers and such. Trust is a precious thing and it should take a good chunk of time before he gains it back in your heart.)
Trust takes the same amount in a friendship as well. If you find her favorite kind of chocolate, that will score big too. But the two should only be given together on hoildays. If its random, pick one or the other. Both means something else.7. If you miss her, or love her, TELL HER! Even your friends like to hear it every now & again.
8. Re-enact Zales commercials (the ice is nice but certainly not mandatory).
Not recommended.9. Remember: the best gifts you can give are usually free of cost.
Like hugs. And I'm sure yall can think of others all on your own.10. Leave a note (or send a message) just to say "hi".
Yall like getting notes like that, so do we.11. Ask her questions about herself.
If she is into you, she should have no problem. And most girls love to talk about themselves anyway.12. Dress nice every once & a while. Any girl likes to see her brother/friend/boyfriend/etc. in a well-ironed button up with some nice slacks.
Yes!! 13. PRIDE & PREJUDICE ...that's all I have to say about that (I mean, that should speak for itself). (It's even more impressive if he has read the book.)
14. Tolerate small children as best you can. Meaning, put up with the things that can get annoying. They're children after all. Show them love and care, teach them how to become a better man than you. (you were once extremely irritating. get over the obnoxious kids and enjoy getting down to their level - not "for her", but for the good of yourself and others)
It is a blessing for a guy to be able to 'deal' with little ones for a good 3 hours and not go out of his mind. And because of the world that we live in today, it is not really possible for any young men to babysit and have a good amount of practice. So when you get a chance, take it.15. Learn to dance! There is nothing sexier than a man that can dance really well. If God did not bless you with the grace of Fred Astaire, at least put forth the effort, it will be greatly appreciated. Always slow dance (even if its just like you danced in middle school). Also, men, sing to a lady. Even in you're terrible, suck it up! They love to listen to it and will not care what you sound like. It's the thought that counts on this one. Unless you're just downright terrible, nothing sexy about that. haha, thanks Jade!
Here Here!!! You dance at a wedding, and yes, all of you will one day go to one. Even if it happens to be your own! You can do the singing thing in a more private setting and be vary intimate with it. Or not. It Depends, on you, the girl, and other things.16. Kiss her on the forehead.
And the hand, don't forget about the hand.17. When she's sick, stay up with her. If you can cook (which is
*always* a plus), make her some soup. If you can't cook, there's Campbell's soup at hand for you.
18. Pretend to throw her in the pool (or fountain/pond). She'll fight you, but seccretly she loves it. If you really do throw her in, you better jump in yourself. **NOTE** There are some women who just hate this, so you had better do two things:
1) never allow your buddies be a part of it if you're unsure of how she feels about getting thrown in and
2) you had better know how she feels about it!
No comment on personal feelings on this one.19. Hold her hand while you talk, drive, or just for the heck of it (it's the small things that win you big points).
But to give a warning, the little things ALWAYS lead to bigger things.20. LOOK IN HER EYES, NOT AT HER CHEST!!!!!
nnfc. (*)21. Stupid jokes = awkwardly adorable moments.
Inside jokes are good too. 22. Tickle her, tease her, let her tease you back with out getting all bent out of shape about it.
Yes. But ask her about that kind of thing earily on.23. Don't call her hot, or pretty, or cute, call her beautiful because that's what she is. (i don't think cute is that bad, but definitely stay away from "hot" and step "pretty" up to beautiful or gorgeous or stunning or captivating or...)
24. Offer her your jacket/sweatshirt. (Note: you may not see that particular item of clothing for a while, if ever again).
Over shirt, button up, t-shirt. Yeah, may not see that for a while, and if you do, it may be ON HER.25. Don't be too proud to apologize.
26. It's not stalking to watch her sleep if you guys fall asleep watching a movie. It is stalking to watch her sleep if you're standing outside her window with night vision goggles.
27. When she feels at her worst, tell her she looks her best.
I have no personal experience with this, so I can't say how well it works.28. If you're trying to get more than friendship out of the relationship, take it slow.
She most likely won't run, guys. It is better to take things slow and be sure, then rush and find yourself in a whole lot of trouble later.29. Because you're a guy doesn't mean you are completley incapable of calling when you say you will; it just means you are highly incapable of it. There are few acceptable answers to, "Why didn't you call?" & being male is not one of them.
Try telling the truth for one. And actually try and call when you say you will for another.30. Don't check out other girls in front of your girl friends/sisters/mother, unless you are sincere when you later ask them if you think she could introduce the two of you for more reason than you "want to get some". Pull this in front of your girlfriend/fiancee/wife, she has every right to clock you in the jaw.
And if you do end up checking them out, try and keep it covert or to the minimum. We don't want to see our guy friends drooling all over the floor.31. Guys- Always offer to pay for the date. No matter how expensive it gets, especially if YOU asked HER on the date.
32. Always do everything in your power to keep her as happy as you can. And cheer her up in any way possible.
There are somethings that I would hope yall wouldn't do even if asked. But do try and keep the chick happy.33. When walking on the sidewalk, always walk on the outside near traffic. (so everyone has a different opinion for how this started. for some it's because of the human waste that was getting thrown out the windows with this happening a century ago +. the woman walked under the overhanges extending from the buildings with the guy in the open to take the mess if need be. others say it's from the guy's scabbard/sword being on his left with the woman walking on the right. as for today, it's the traffic and puddles and whatnot. just a courtesy thing if it seems necessary.)
Maybe if the cars did anything weird, the guy would get hit first?34. At least do everything in your power to keep cursing to a minimum while around her. If you can, cut it out period while around her, or cut it out of your vocabulary. Women don't want to hear it, guys don't care about it, adults don't want to hear it, it doesn't impress employers, and you sure won't want your children or someone elses to hear it!
Thank you!35. Sometimes you have to take the initiative. Don't always wait for her to come to you, because if that's how it always is you're going to lose her.
Very Ture.36. If any lady is walking alone to her car in a dark parking lot/garage, or is carrying a heavy load, always offer to help walk her to her destination and carry things, if not the entire load. **This may work a lot better and come off non-stalkerish if you at least know the girl you're trying to help. haha Thanks to a LOT of people on this revision.
37. If a woman says no, let that be her final answer. Do not pressure or force her in any way. Don't make her give in to something she doesn't want to do.
Let your yes mean yes, and your no mean no. Even if her lips say no, but her body says yes, go with her word. 38. Always be honest with her. No woman wants or likes a dishonest man. If you can't be honest with her she can't trust you, and shows you don't trust her enough to be honest. Trust, honesty and integrity are just as an integral part of a relationship and just as important as love.
39. A man should always genuinely listen to women; no matter how boring or busy the man is, actively listening to the woman will keep him from pain [and bring the man and woman closer together]. This works best, of course, when both the man and the woman actively and equally engage in conversation (this includes listening). For the ladies reading this, please talk - always talk - especially if you are having problems with the relationship and to also avoid making bigger problems.
We all need to work on not keeping it bottled inside. Calmly speak your mind and concerns with your friend/partner. As mentors have told me, "If you don't tell me the problem, I can't help."
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